The Terrible Misconception

There are some religions and cultures in the world that are scared of female sexuality. The idea in the Judao-Christian world is that Eve discovered her sexuality and that lead to the expulsion from the Garden of Eden. So man has blamed her ever since.

It seems to me that we are in a sad situation, even in the most liberal countries, where women are discouraged from discovering and developing their sexuality. As a man, I have to ask myself why? What is so threatening about a fully-functioning woman? Instead, we have women who in some cases do not function at all. They have little self-worth and apart from having children and waiting on a man, see little point in life.

When a woman does learn the true nature of her sexuality and finds out at the same time that she can reach a higher level of consciousness, she discovers that there is more to life than she ever dreamed. This is only by my observation, as being a man, I can only understand it this way.

Female masturbation has been frowned on and denied. In many sexual surveys, 80%+ men admit to masturbation and only 20% or so women admit to it. I do not believe this to be the case in liberal countries at least. Men masturbate to fantasize, to release and many men can come in a very short time. Others have learned to extend the period. But women will use masturbation to reach a level of excitement that they are in control of, touching themselves on the canvas where they paint wonderfully delicious sexual feelings.

But for some, there seems to be a missing ingredient: the embrace of another body, the sight of a man, the security of that embrace and into the bargain, concentrating on mechanical actions.

So what has happened in our society? Women have been told to deny these 'feelings'; that masturbation is 'dirty'; that demanded anything other than the terms offered by men is offensive. To the degree that the Womens Liberation movement sees men as the enemy.

But it could be so different. If we changed the paradigm and belief structures. If we men treated women for what they are, namely, beings that because of their 'wiring' can reach enlightenment by channeling their sexual energy. And it is something that men should be happy to do. To literally 'make' love. To help women find their way to the super-conscious by taking the time to learn how to get women to that level.

And no, it is nothing to do with the length or thickness of your penis.

It is all to do with allowing your partner to become relaxed and secure to create the conditions for the journey. It is about Tantric massage to cultivate the sexual energy, both in you and in her. It is about understanding the nature of the woman's path to satisfaction which is so different from your own.

It is about slowly building up the excitement, like taking the embers of a fire that has almost gone out and transforming it to a blazing fire. It is reading your partners face and utterences, moving forward when she is ready. It is about eye contact, softly-spoken words and embrace.

If you as a man concentrate on helping your partner to reach a higher level, your own experience will be enhanced.

A woman thus loved is transformed. She is 'knowing' and will appreciate you. But this is not about your ego. She is not your slave. You do not own her. You have done what you were put on Earth to do: Assist a women to a higher plane.

Alas, there are very few 'knowledgable' women around. Those that are, understandably keep it to themselves. Others, understandibly, have lesbian relationships where at  least their partner understands what is required.

What a sorry state of affairs. All those women just existing when they could be discovering the meaning of life. All those men, stigmatized by cultures that says they are superior to women, using women as a convenient place to ejaculate their sperm whenever they had the urge. Young girls, who think that sexual gratification is getting a 'bonk', thus fully coming down to the level of men, totally encouraged by media.


So let me reiterate:

1. Women have not been 'allowed' to explore their sexuality
2. Men have not been taught how to make love to women.
3. Women should be helped by love-making to reach a higher spiritual level
4. The role of men is to help women achieve the above.
5. We have to change many concepts in our world and empower humans to live.