Sacred Sexuality (by Shrif Swami)

Tantra says: The appeal of sex is because it gives you a moment of egolessness, timelessness, meditation. Because of ego-gratification, sex has become very very superficial, it only scratches the skin. It does not go deep, it has no depth. So many people are worried about premature ejaculation. The reason? They don’t love. If they love, then naturally they can make love for longer periods — the more you are in love, the longer the period will be. For hours you can be in love, because there is no hurry, the ego is not controlling.

In a Tantra coitus you can remain for hours. It is a kind of melting with the woman or with the man, it is a kind of relaxation into each other’s being. And it is meditative, because there is no ego, no thought stirs. And time stops. This is a glimpse of God. Tantra is the natural way to God, the normal way to God. The object is to become so completely instinctual, so mindless, that we merge with ultimate nature — that the woman disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate, the man disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate.

This is the Tantra definition of our sexuality: The return to absolute innocence, absolute oneness. The greatest sexual thrill of all is no search for thrills, but a silent waiting. Utterly relaxed, utterly mindless. One is conscious, conscious only of being conscious. One is consciousness. One is contented, but there is no content to it. And then there is great beauty, great benediction..

Sexual Energy (by Shrif Swami)

Sexual energy is a wastage if it only remains confined to sex, but it becomes a great blessing if it starts transforming its quality: sex not for sex’ sake — use sex as a communion of love. Use sex as a meeting of two souls, not only of two bodies. Use sex as a meditative dance of two persons’ energies. And the dance is far richer when man and woman are dancing together — and sex is the ultimate in dance: two energies meeting, merging, dancing, rejoicing.

But use it as a stepping-stone, as a jumping-board. And when you reach the climax of your sex orgasm, become aware of what is happening, and you will be surprised — time has disappeared, mind has disappeared, ego has disappeared. For a moment there is utter silence. This silence is the real thing!

By Shrif Swami Reposted from Tantric Therapy on Facebook.

The New World Order

Wise up, guys! There is a New World Order on the way!

Women today have found their rightful way to economic independence and that is a fact. It goes and different speeds around the world. In North West Europe, it is a fast development and I am told that that is the situation in East Asia. Women are getting educated and finding power through their careers.

Oh dear, I hear the lament of my brothers; but there is really no need for this. It is a fact that the peacefulness and hence, prosperity, of a nation is proportional to how its women are treated. I take it that we all have an interest in a peaceful world? Good!

So what does this mean to the average Jock? It means that you, Jock, will have to get wise and change your ways if you want any sort of sex life in the future that involves a female partner.

Until recently, us guys had entitlement, which meant that we could do pretty much what we liked with women - screw them, rape them, enslave them, beat them, because the expression of testosterone is violence. No way could women fight back. They were number two, if they were considered anything at all.

That is changing - partly by education and partly through the feminist movement. No, I am not a great fan of the feminist movement, especially when it becomes as fundamentalist as the creed of rabid ayatollahs and gets incorporated into the establishment - "state feminism". I believe that these women have directed so much hate at men, that they have denied their sisters and daughters access to what men are really capable of, if only they had the right guidance.

It should be (but it isn't) plain to see that the world is heading in the wrong direction. We have a corporation that wants to flood the world with cheap, toxic, highly addictive food for the masses. Probably backed by governments. Many people are living decidedly unhealthy morbid lifestyles as a consequence. If you are an obese, diabetes ridden, heart attack victim who has been made ill by all the crap food, you will find it difficult to reach tantric bliss.

"The media purveys a never-ending stream of inane, dumbed down hypnotic garbage that numbs the senses, plus of course Porn – the only means by which the de-sensitised, emotionally crippled consumers can get turned on any more" to quote Eleanor O'Rourke

Take the mantra of competition (the driving force of survival) to its obvious conclusion – a few people stand on the winner’s podium while everybody else loses.

This could all change, starting with the realization that women are divine and to be a real man, you must be a worshiper of women. However, there are many other things that could happen, such as a new paradigm for corporations who set themselves in society instead of believing they are separate from it.

To live a tantric lifestyle, essential for humanity's survival, you have to love yourself, your body and keep both mind and body healthy. By exercise and right diet. The Internet plays an important role, so never allow governments and corporations to control it. Write you own blog, your experiences. You can learn, discover and teach your children to learn about intimate human relations from books, articles, blogs and spiritual videos instead of the plastic, distorted, perverted world of pornography. Distinguish between the erotic and pornography.

Seek out like-minded people. Avoid those who are only in it for the money. Discuss openly, without fear, with everybody. Distinguish between casual, mindless, bonking sex and the sacred love-making between two souls. Use the creativity to solve your life's daily problems. Care for others as you will be cared for. Teach your children and others. Do not evangalise, but be aware of those who are ready to climb out of the dungeons of corporate oppression where they are shackled with the evil of money and materialism. Wellbeing and happiness in who you are counts much more than the love of things. Things are to be used, humans are to be loved, but our world has turned this on its head and what you see is many unhappy, unfulfilled, "wealthy" people.

Your wealth is in your giving, not the accumulated things. That giving starts with love and awareness. The love of nature, the appreciation and thankfulness of everything you experience, the godliness of you and everything and the transmutation of energy by the uniting of the feminine and the masculine in sacred, deep, aware, respectful, love-making.

Be skeptical; listen to the messages: kill the competition, consume more, go for economic growth. Reject these shibboleths and think in terms of enjoy what's around, cultivate relationships, forget concepts of possession and ownership of other people.In being jealous of things and relationships, you are sinking into a black hole. If you love yourself and have the capacity to love others, love will find you. But if you are envious, jealous, obsessive and possessive, unhappiness will follow you around like a shadow

So, hopefully you have now read the above and taken this in. You can go back to your rat-race job and convince yourself you have to do all this to "survive" (which is actually all you are doing), or you can sit on your bottom with a pizza and beer watching some inane reality show because you have nothing else to do having been excluded from the "elite" rat-race society. Neither are optimal, so start today by taking some outdoor exercise. Go swimming. Be aware of all that is around. Appreciate it. Find the best food you can afford. Organic. Start doing yoga and meditation. Clear you r mind and tune up your beautiful body. Seek the immutable truth in everything you appraise. Find like-minded people. Be open and honest to these people. They will be open and honest back. Love with passion and with the aim of giving and pleasing the other on a physical and spiritual level. Live long and lovingly. Give yourself.

A Woman is like a Canvas and her Lover an Artist

I love Metaphors! I was explaining to my partner what it was like to make love to her, bearing in mind that to me she has special qualities, which I will tell you about further down this blog. I told her that she was like a canvas and when I made love to her, it was like painting a picture. I come to think about what you needed to paint a great picture - time, canvas, brushes, paint. Paint! that is a vital ingredient, the raw material, without which it would be impossible to paint at all. My lover supplies a complete palette of bright paints - the colors of her chakras. So as long as I have this paint I can create wonderful images on the canvas. The point here is that those colors have to be available. Unfortunately, many women (and I suppose men) only have black and/or white available, which limits what can be created. Why do most women have very limited and plain colors? Because they have, since youth, had the colors leeched out of them by parents, family, culture, tradition and religion. Or even worse, they have had the palettes deliberately spoiled (mixed together to form a dirty brown) by the same parties. What I mean to say here is that a woman who is open, empathetic and unafraid is easier to love; because she reacts - naturally. She is not scared of where the feelings will take her and is ready to let her brain slide and her mind open up to the vast emptiness where all knowledge resides. Of course, this process relies on her partner understanding the process and being full of trust, because trust=love which gives security. Women can do this themselves to a degree, but half the magic is missing and they cannot fully concentrate. Have you ever tried to tickle yourself? Many, many women are filled with guilt or have been repressed. They once dreamed of being loved and having someone to take those fresh colors and make a fantastic painting. Only the "artist" had no idea, daubing the paint on crudely, even making holes in the canvas occasionally. A huge disappointment for many, leaving the majority to believe that the fault was with them. The doctrines of religion have caused huge damage and you can see that on the streets. Women rarely look happy in public. Because they are fundamentally not - or they are afraid to show happiness in case it becomes a signal for another selfish "artist" to come and mess the paints up to give a monochrome crap-color. Can anything be done to reverse this? Can the paints be separated out? Yes, I believe they can, but it takes a lot of patience and understanding. First, there has to be an atmosphere of trust - trust that the woman is safe under all circumstances and she will not be physically of psychologically hurt. The lover has to be capable of showing his(or her) understanding and skill, without "bragging". It is all in the kiss, and you won't believe how many times I have been called "dangerous" after the first kiss. It takes time, and lots of tender love. It takes dialog and exploration. Many women suffer from a severe lack of self-worth and they have the concepts of Shakti explained and discussed. Masturbation by the woman is encouraged, as this helps her ease into being relaxed and shows her lover how she likes to be touched. Go slowly - I mean real slow - 2-3 hours minimum. Many guys are thinking "whoa!, she has to what?" Why do men have problems with this, that a woman pleasuring herself somehow takes the focus off Mr. Big Dick Ego? You are here to assist and your reward is the love you will get back and, if you believe in Karma, the positive energy that comes your way. There is a fantastic feeling of achievement to watch a woman disappear into a trance of pleasure. If you are very aware, you will see the Kundalini energy creating a fountain from the top of her head and you will feel good. Believe me. If you can control your ejaculation, you can go on for hours, because she can! I would say that the biggest obstacle is approaching the issue from the start with a woman. Remember, many women, it seems, especially those over 50, do not know what an orgasm looks or feels like. But with an open mind and a lot of love, they will and your partner will realize her sexuality. Enjoy!