A Woman is like a Canvas and her Lover an Artist

I love Metaphors! I was explaining to my partner what it was like to make love to her, bearing in mind that to me she has special qualities, which I will tell you about further down this blog. I told her that she was like a canvas and when I made love to her, it was like painting a picture. I come to think about what you needed to paint a great picture - time, canvas, brushes, paint. Paint! that is a vital ingredient, the raw material, without which it would be impossible to paint at all. My lover supplies a complete palette of bright paints - the colors of her chakras. So as long as I have this paint I can create wonderful images on the canvas. The point here is that those colors have to be available. Unfortunately, many women (and I suppose men) only have black and/or white available, which limits what can be created. Why do most women have very limited and plain colors? Because they have, since youth, had the colors leeched out of them by parents, family, culture, tradition and religion. Or even worse, they have had the palettes deliberately spoiled (mixed together to form a dirty brown) by the same parties. What I mean to say here is that a woman who is open, empathetic and unafraid is easier to love; because she reacts - naturally. She is not scared of where the feelings will take her and is ready to let her brain slide and her mind open up to the vast emptiness where all knowledge resides. Of course, this process relies on her partner understanding the process and being full of trust, because trust=love which gives security. Women can do this themselves to a degree, but half the magic is missing and they cannot fully concentrate. Have you ever tried to tickle yourself? Many, many women are filled with guilt or have been repressed. They once dreamed of being loved and having someone to take those fresh colors and make a fantastic painting. Only the "artist" had no idea, daubing the paint on crudely, even making holes in the canvas occasionally. A huge disappointment for many, leaving the majority to believe that the fault was with them. The doctrines of religion have caused huge damage and you can see that on the streets. Women rarely look happy in public. Because they are fundamentally not - or they are afraid to show happiness in case it becomes a signal for another selfish "artist" to come and mess the paints up to give a monochrome crap-color. Can anything be done to reverse this? Can the paints be separated out? Yes, I believe they can, but it takes a lot of patience and understanding. First, there has to be an atmosphere of trust - trust that the woman is safe under all circumstances and she will not be physically of psychologically hurt. The lover has to be capable of showing his(or her) understanding and skill, without "bragging". It is all in the kiss, and you won't believe how many times I have been called "dangerous" after the first kiss. It takes time, and lots of tender love. It takes dialog and exploration. Many women suffer from a severe lack of self-worth and they have the concepts of Shakti explained and discussed. Masturbation by the woman is encouraged, as this helps her ease into being relaxed and shows her lover how she likes to be touched. Go slowly - I mean real slow - 2-3 hours minimum. Many guys are thinking "whoa!, she has to what?" Why do men have problems with this, that a woman pleasuring herself somehow takes the focus off Mr. Big Dick Ego? You are here to assist and your reward is the love you will get back and, if you believe in Karma, the positive energy that comes your way. There is a fantastic feeling of achievement to watch a woman disappear into a trance of pleasure. If you are very aware, you will see the Kundalini energy creating a fountain from the top of her head and you will feel good. Believe me. If you can control your ejaculation, you can go on for hours, because she can! I would say that the biggest obstacle is approaching the issue from the start with a woman. Remember, many women, it seems, especially those over 50, do not know what an orgasm looks or feels like. But with an open mind and a lot of love, they will and your partner will realize her sexuality. Enjoy!