I am assuming that the men who are reading this know what a clitoris is? Well if you don't, it is a very important part of a woman's physiology. It is a place where there is a large concentration of nerve cells that transmit signals of touch to the brain which in turn stimulates the areas which release certain hormones. (Ladies - bear in mind that this is a man writing and is probably an oversimplification - but we have to take it from the top, right?).
It works in a different way to a penis, but some have described it as a female penis. The shape and size varies greatly (just like the penis) and normally is shielded by a 'hood', like a foreskin. It resembles a 'beak'. Look it up on an anatomical diagram to see where it is.
Now, this is very important and is incredibly sensitive. Think of the area just below the opening of your penis.
So, now I have told you what it is and where it is, go for it, start rubbing it!
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Being so sensitive, you don't even have to touch it to excite it. It is one of the last things to touch, because skin, necks, lips, ear lobes, legs, arms, stomach, hips, breasts are all a part of the way to getting your partner to that higher level of conciousness.
Generally, us guys do not have the sensitivity in our fingertips to touch such a delicate object sensitively enough. Bit of a difference there from the throttle of your Harley to a clitoris.
So, the instrument of choice has to be the tongue. If you have done your build-up right, your breath from your nostril may be enough to bring your partner into the zone. But otherwise, the gentlest of contact from the tip of your tongue can do it. Just watch her face, see her nipples firm and engorge. Given time, she will be gone, off to that other place in her mind.
If your partner masturbates, her hand will sometimes go through the motions, in a kind of reflex. Observe her hand. Hole her hand so that her fingers and thumbs are in your palms. She will automatically guide you as to frequency, intensity and pressure. Without even knowing she is doing it. You get all the guidance you need, bro!
The sides of the clitoris are just as sensitive as the side, but be gently. Occasionally lick the labia (libs) or plunge your tongue inside, just for a change of input. If she physically 'comes', or ejaculates, don't worry - it is actually normal. There is nothing nasty or dirty in this fluid, She might be surprised that she has done this, but encourage her to let it out, without holding back.
If you can speak while you are performing, speak soft reassuring words. Tell her she is safe and that she can do exactly what she wants. Tell her that you want to help her on her journey to a different mental place.
A woman can go on for hours like this. Making love this way will build up your own excitement, because you are extracting the sexual energy and feeding yours. You will normally end up with experiencing a great togetherness where your two souls will meet and you will both be one as you come in unison.
torsdag den 10. juni 2010
fredag den 4. juni 2010
The Terrible Misconception
There are some religions and cultures in the world that are scared of female sexuality. The idea in the Judao-Christian world is that Eve discovered her sexuality and that lead to the expulsion from the Garden of Eden. So man has blamed her ever since.
It seems to me that we are in a sad situation, even in the most liberal countries, where women are discouraged from discovering and developing their sexuality. As a man, I have to ask myself why? What is so threatening about a fully-functioning woman? Instead, we have women who in some cases do not function at all. They have little self-worth and apart from having children and waiting on a man, see little point in life.
When a woman does learn the true nature of her sexuality and finds out at the same time that she can reach a higher level of consciousness, she discovers that there is more to life than she ever dreamed. This is only by my observation, as being a man, I can only understand it this way.
Female masturbation has been frowned on and denied. In many sexual surveys, 80%+ men admit to masturbation and only 20% or so women admit to it. I do not believe this to be the case in liberal countries at least. Men masturbate to fantasize, to release and many men can come in a very short time. Others have learned to extend the period. But women will use masturbation to reach a level of excitement that they are in control of, touching themselves on the canvas where they paint wonderfully delicious sexual feelings.
But for some, there seems to be a missing ingredient: the embrace of another body, the sight of a man, the security of that embrace and into the bargain, concentrating on mechanical actions.
So what has happened in our society? Women have been told to deny these 'feelings'; that masturbation is 'dirty'; that demanded anything other than the terms offered by men is offensive. To the degree that the Womens Liberation movement sees men as the enemy.
But it could be so different. If we changed the paradigm and belief structures. If we men treated women for what they are, namely, beings that because of their 'wiring' can reach enlightenment by channeling their sexual energy. And it is something that men should be happy to do. To literally 'make' love. To help women find their way to the super-conscious by taking the time to learn how to get women to that level.
And no, it is nothing to do with the length or thickness of your penis.
It is all to do with allowing your partner to become relaxed and secure to create the conditions for the journey. It is about Tantric massage to cultivate the sexual energy, both in you and in her. It is about understanding the nature of the woman's path to satisfaction which is so different from your own.
It is about slowly building up the excitement, like taking the embers of a fire that has almost gone out and transforming it to a blazing fire. It is reading your partners face and utterences, moving forward when she is ready. It is about eye contact, softly-spoken words and embrace.
If you as a man concentrate on helping your partner to reach a higher level, your own experience will be enhanced.
A woman thus loved is transformed. She is 'knowing' and will appreciate you. But this is not about your ego. She is not your slave. You do not own her. You have done what you were put on Earth to do: Assist a women to a higher plane.
Alas, there are very few 'knowledgable' women around. Those that are, understandably keep it to themselves. Others, understandibly, have lesbian relationships where at least their partner understands what is required.
What a sorry state of affairs. All those women just existing when they could be discovering the meaning of life. All those men, stigmatized by cultures that says they are superior to women, using women as a convenient place to ejaculate their sperm whenever they had the urge. Young girls, who think that sexual gratification is getting a 'bonk', thus fully coming down to the level of men, totally encouraged by media.
So let me reiterate:
It seems to me that we are in a sad situation, even in the most liberal countries, where women are discouraged from discovering and developing their sexuality. As a man, I have to ask myself why? What is so threatening about a fully-functioning woman? Instead, we have women who in some cases do not function at all. They have little self-worth and apart from having children and waiting on a man, see little point in life.
When a woman does learn the true nature of her sexuality and finds out at the same time that she can reach a higher level of consciousness, she discovers that there is more to life than she ever dreamed. This is only by my observation, as being a man, I can only understand it this way.
Female masturbation has been frowned on and denied. In many sexual surveys, 80%+ men admit to masturbation and only 20% or so women admit to it. I do not believe this to be the case in liberal countries at least. Men masturbate to fantasize, to release and many men can come in a very short time. Others have learned to extend the period. But women will use masturbation to reach a level of excitement that they are in control of, touching themselves on the canvas where they paint wonderfully delicious sexual feelings.
But for some, there seems to be a missing ingredient: the embrace of another body, the sight of a man, the security of that embrace and into the bargain, concentrating on mechanical actions.
So what has happened in our society? Women have been told to deny these 'feelings'; that masturbation is 'dirty'; that demanded anything other than the terms offered by men is offensive. To the degree that the Womens Liberation movement sees men as the enemy.
But it could be so different. If we changed the paradigm and belief structures. If we men treated women for what they are, namely, beings that because of their 'wiring' can reach enlightenment by channeling their sexual energy. And it is something that men should be happy to do. To literally 'make' love. To help women find their way to the super-conscious by taking the time to learn how to get women to that level.
And no, it is nothing to do with the length or thickness of your penis.
It is all to do with allowing your partner to become relaxed and secure to create the conditions for the journey. It is about Tantric massage to cultivate the sexual energy, both in you and in her. It is about understanding the nature of the woman's path to satisfaction which is so different from your own.
It is about slowly building up the excitement, like taking the embers of a fire that has almost gone out and transforming it to a blazing fire. It is reading your partners face and utterences, moving forward when she is ready. It is about eye contact, softly-spoken words and embrace.
If you as a man concentrate on helping your partner to reach a higher level, your own experience will be enhanced.
A woman thus loved is transformed. She is 'knowing' and will appreciate you. But this is not about your ego. She is not your slave. You do not own her. You have done what you were put on Earth to do: Assist a women to a higher plane.
Alas, there are very few 'knowledgable' women around. Those that are, understandably keep it to themselves. Others, understandibly, have lesbian relationships where at least their partner understands what is required.
What a sorry state of affairs. All those women just existing when they could be discovering the meaning of life. All those men, stigmatized by cultures that says they are superior to women, using women as a convenient place to ejaculate their sperm whenever they had the urge. Young girls, who think that sexual gratification is getting a 'bonk', thus fully coming down to the level of men, totally encouraged by media.
So let me reiterate:
- Women have not been 'allowed' to explore their sexuality
- Men have not been taught how to make love to women.
- Women should be helped by love-making to reach a higher spiritual level
- The role of men is to help women achieve the above.
- We have to change many concepts in our world and empower humans to live.
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