Enlightenment or Ignorance - it is Your Choice.

Enlightenment is an insight into the spiritual. It also means "the full comprehension of a situation". The opposite meaning is ignorance.

If you become enlightened with Tantra, you start to realize that most of humanity is ignorant. Not only in Tantric terms, but just the way we live. 

I feel that humanity today exists in a western-culturally led globalisation.  This has turned many of us into potted plants. Society feeds and  waters us to keep things just so. To be useful to carry out work for others. To keep the status quo.

We think that we can be "happy" by amassing material goods. We focus on time. We worship money, the great mammon. The education system dumbs us down with outcome orientated teaching. We accept that the world is becoming a rougher, less caring place. We focus on "me", the ego.

It could be so different. If we want to move forward in peace, we must think in a new way.

First of all, we have to start with our health. Without our health, we cannot be good lovers. It is hard to give if you are thinking about pain. We eat food that is not real food. To make someone rich, or as government policy. This leads to chronic illness: cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.

We have to take responsibility for our health . We can start by proper eating in modest amounts. We have to practice intermittent fasting and occasional calorific restriction.

We have to learn to centering, the single-point of attention. That is not found in your head, it is in your 'Hara', below your navel.

We have to learn correct breathing and how to move.

When we are healthy, we can move to fitness. Mental and physical fitness. Then we can give, engage with our minds and higher consciousness. We learn to do this and later we can learn to fuse with another enlightened human to release the full power of Tantra.

99.9% of people are living in ignorance. They have locked themselves in their intellect, egos and emotions. They are not in their sensuality.

In my opinion, there is one group, a large group, who have the easiest path. These are mothers who have brought their children to adulthood. There we have a dilemma. Because of cultural stereotypes, the women suffer from low self esteem and self worth. What a shame. 

The loving potential of these women can power the world. That potential is only released when the men become enlightened.

So, let me restate my mantra: The role of men on this Earth is to worship the Divine Feminine.  

Apart from being the catalyst to help women reach a higher and higher level of consciousness, they can do a lot. It starts with total respect for women. No molesting, no rape, no putting women down. No equality as feminists would have. Rather an elevation of all women to a status of the Divine Goddess.

That does not mean that men should be patronizing. Being strong and protective at the same time loving and tender is the duty of all men. Providing the means to procreation and supporting mother and child is another. Men must never regard women as property. They must accept the non-permanence of relationships. The latter is hard to achieve. Jealousy, envy and possession are all apart of our material world.  Rejection is hard for the ego to deal with. But we must get rid of the idea of monogamy and possession. It is a poison.  

If you are a woman reading this: Trust your intuition. Realize your sexuality. Look after your health.

If you are a man reading this: Accept that women are on a higher plane in the sentinent hierarchy. Use your sensuality and empathy as a strength. Do not consider it a weakness. Listen to your partner. Your aim is to help bring her to a lasting sensual orgasm and keep her there for as long as possible. You will then sense the energy of the cosmos. This is a reward in itself.

Namaste.

I love this following video.

Why We Should Study Tantra as Individuals from Katrina Bos on Vimeo.

You've Lost That Loving Feeling....When your Tantric Woman loses interest

“You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips

And there's no tenderness like before in your fingertips”

                                                                                -“You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling”

I often wondered as a kid, what this song was about. Was it that his woman did not love him anymore? Perhaps she no longer found him attractive? She has another lover? Who knows?

My experience shows a different possibility.

Let us assume that Shakti is not your Tantric lover. Let us say that she is not the Divine Love Goddess. That Shakti reveals herself through a window that your partner has opened.

There are many different scenarios and situations leading to a form of kundalini awakening. The conditions have to be there to allow the two snakes to uncoil themselves. This can be an awareness of the woman. The intellect can be a driver. We men may kid ourselves that we are responsible.

The fact is that a woman can open the window to allow you to experience Shakti, the true Divine Love Goddess. And she can close it again. Just like that.

This can come as a shock. A blow to the ego, if you are still carrying one around. When she is no longer interested in making love. When it appears that she has gone cold on you. A million thoughts can pass through your mind. “What am I doing wrong?”, What happened?”. “Is there somebody else?”.

 Are you doing anything wrong? No, not if you are concentrating on her pleasure. If she is a Tantric lover, she would have told you that you could do better. Is there somebody else? A Tantric lover has to be empathic to allow the window to open, so she would tell you if there was, for sure. But if there is, just hope that he is a better lover than you are, because you do wish her the best. What happened? Several things are possible: Unfortunately, cultural norms affect Tantric women. It may well be that she has been in the negative atmosphere of other women who have a downer on all males. They may persuade her that she ought not to trust men. These women can be the older ones who have never experienced an awakening. Or they could be rabid feminists.

 Another possibility is that your Tantric lover has had a major change in her life. These changes can be the in the form of a lifestyle change, an illness, an emotional shock or the menopause.

You may well find that although you are a good Tantric lover, you suck in other ways! Yet I think that being open and honest with each other would lead her to tell you.

Sometimes it is that your lover cannot tell you what the reason is. Only that she does not want to take part in love making. For no particular reason. That is tough.

My theory is that we as men are invoking Shiva to find Shakti and we make the mistake in assuming that our lover is Shakti. We have to understand that if the conditions exist, your lover will show you Shakti. It is this embodiment that you are making love to. You are creating cosmic energy fusions. Your lover moves to a higher level of consciousness. She is making a path available by connecting with her mind.

So, what to do?

If you are friends with your lover, you need to show understanding. Give her room and time. Perhaps leave her alone completely for a while. Her window may open again – it may not. If it doesn’t, it is sad. This is Shakti in her role as the Great Destroyer. It hurts. You feel devastated. You feel that everything was perfect. That it should last forever. You want to go back in time and do something to avert the present situation.

If you have to move on, understand this. Your lover was never yours. She was the vehicle for Shakti. She opened a window for you. The window closes with this lover. It will open another place.

 “If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours” -Richard Bach