- Get fit. One of the worst aspects of modern life is that there are far too many obese and unfit people around. That is so sad, because in my opinion, one cannot really reach the levels of subconsciousness unless you have a healthy body. To experience deep sensuous feelings, you have to be aware of your body, because that is the channel that you are using in tantric love making. I believe that many people overeat because they have little spiritual sexuality in their lives. It is possible to get fit by tantric sex!
- Swim. When the secrets of tantra were being written down, I doubt that swimming was a form of exercise practiced by many. Now we have good facilities for swimming and I am sure that if swimming pools were around 2,500 years ago, swimming would have been an integral part of yoga. Because swimming is total body exercise and when you are in the rhythm of swimming, you can meditate. Additionally, when you are in a pool of like-minded people, you share a spirituality with them.
- Shun drugs and alcohol. You don't need them. No drugs can emulate the real present moment awareness of tantric love making. They will slow you down and you will become a slave to them.
- Eat well. Heavy foods are not conducive to love making and farting and belching will not enhance the experience. Eat light meals regularly, with lots of fruits and vegetables, preferably plucked fresh from the tree as they are full of pranic, or life-force, energy.
- Practice Yoga. Yoga is an amazing exercise as it helps get you fit, opens channels in your body to cultivate sexual energy and allows you to meditate better. Do yoga with your partner as a prelude to tantric sex.
- Meditate. Meditate before and after tantric sex, using the love that you have for your tantric partner as the object of your meditation. Let the previous experience arise in your mind and thank your partner for the joy it brought.
- Time. Give yourself plenty of time and be spontaneous. You cannot plan a time for tantric sex, but rather look for the opportunity by performing acts of love constantly. Do not rush. Remember that just looking into your partner's eyes is making love.
- Mutual Respect. You must have mutual respect for each other. You both come to this sacred act as equals, like an indenture that has to fit together to be valid.
- Place. The place where you make tantric love is a temple, a place where you worship each other, finding the Shiva and Shakti in each other. Make sure that the environment is calm and inviting, a safe place where you won't be disturbed or distracted.
- Symbols. Use symbols of your sacred union to remind you of why you are together. Use oils or incense burners to create the ambiance.
Most of the above would seem obvious, but few couples give themselves the optimal conditions to reach a higher level of consciousness. Many will tick the boxes and say that they already do that, but just think about it.Are you as fit as you could be? Are you eating the right diet? Do you give yourself the time to reach deeper every time you make love?
Think about it. Namaste.
