Gently, guys, gently

I am assuming that the men who are reading this know what a clitoris is? Well if you don't, it is a very important part of a woman's physiology. It is a place where there is a large concentration of nerve cells that transmit signals of touch to the brain which in turn stimulates the areas which release certain hormones. (Ladies - bear in mind that this is a man writing and is probably an oversimplification - but we have to take it from the top, right?).

It works in a different way to a penis, but some have described it as a female penis. The shape and size varies greatly (just like the penis) and normally is shielded by a 'hood', like a foreskin. It resembles a 'beak'. Look it up on an anatomical diagram to see where it is.

Now, this is very important and is incredibly sensitive. Think of the area just below the opening of your penis.

So, now I have told you what it is and where it is, go for it, start rubbing it!

-wrong!

Being so sensitive, you don't even have to touch it to excite it. It is one of the last things to touch, because skin, necks, lips, ear lobes, legs, arms, stomach, hips, breasts are all a part of the way to getting your partner to that higher level of conciousness.

Generally, us guys do not have the sensitivity in our fingertips to touch such a delicate object sensitively enough. Bit of a difference there from the throttle of your Harley to a clitoris.

So, the instrument of choice has to be the tongue. If you have done your build-up right, your breath from your nostril may be enough to bring your partner into the zone. But otherwise, the gentlest of contact from the tip of your tongue can do it. Just watch her face, see her nipples firm and engorge. Given time, she will be gone, off to that other place in her mind.

If your partner masturbates, her hand will sometimes go through the motions, in a kind of reflex. Observe her hand. Hole her hand so that her fingers and thumbs are in your palms. She will automatically guide you as to frequency, intensity and pressure. Without even knowing she is doing it. You get all the guidance you need, bro!

The sides of the clitoris are just as sensitive as the side, but be gently. Occasionally lick the labia (libs) or plunge your tongue inside, just for a change of input. If she physically 'comes', or ejaculates, don't worry - it is actually normal. There is nothing nasty or dirty in this fluid, She might be surprised that she has done this, but encourage her to let it out, without holding back.

If you can speak while you are performing, speak soft reassuring words. Tell her she is safe and that she can do exactly what she wants. Tell her that you want to help her on her journey to a different mental place.

A woman can go on for hours like this. Making love this way will build up your own excitement, because you are extracting the sexual energy and feeding yours. You will normally end up with experiencing a great togetherness where your two souls will meet and you will both be one as you come in unison.