Sex and Spirituality

A friend of mine had written a blog which talked about sex and spirituality. He made a mention of this blog in social media and one of his female friends commented: "You can't be sexual and spiritual at the same time?". Kind of a statement and question at the same time, which appears to me that she was confused or naive.


The whole point is that sexuality and spirituality are the same. Especially for women. The unfortunate, nay, tragic part is that the vast majority of women do not seem to appreciate this.


Ken Wilber, whom I greatly respect as a thinker, refers to "memes" and the development that individuals and societies have to go through to reach a level of spirituality. The sexual development clearly takes the same path. So it does not surprise me that the vast majority are not "there" yet. It is in the interests of the lower hierarchical memes to hold people away from the realization that sex and spirituality are inextricably linked. 


But like with everything else, people reason and by reasoning and thinking, get to understand more. The ironic thing about sex is that people often make that realization when they are not physically able to do anything about it, because they have gotten old and their bodies begin to break down. Which could have been delayed if they had listened more to their bodies and explored their minds.


Women have the wonderful opportunity of reaching a higher level of conciousness through their bodies. A woman's body is an amazing total sexual organ and by cultivating the sexual energy, can transform it into their minds. Unfortunately for the majority of us men, we have to sit and stare at a wall to achieve the same, by meditation.



Speaking as a man and an observer, I think the majority of women know this. They explore there bodies at an early age, but then, through guilt or approbation, are told that this is "unhealthy". A new study reveals 92% of women regularly take time out to masturbate, a huge jump from the findings of previous studies (74% in 1979 and 62% in 1953). We are heading in the right direction, for sure.


But many women stop here, because men cannot come to terms with this, or lesbianism. Men think that a women who rejects "them" as a "lover" (sic) is some kind of traitor. Women know this, so rarely admit to a man that they masturbate.


However, getting the confidence of a woman to admit this and even better, getting into a relaxed position to show you, as a partner, what she does and how she best stimulate herself can help her get to the higher levels. Why? I could guess that in pre-historic times, a woman knew she was vulnerable when she was in the "zone", therefore having a man to protect her was important. I think this is still valid today, and the appeal of a strong, protective but sensitive man is very important to women.


In any case, the intimacy of a man and the sharing of the experience will help the woman reach, by stages, a higher spiritual level. Here, the man should worship his Shakti woman, whispering encouragement into her ears, caressing her, stroking her body, kissing her gently while she does what she does best. It is being there without getting involved. Guys, forget your egos, forget the self-interest and concentrate on assisting your love partner to ecstasy and bliss. 


This ego-lessness will give you a wonderful feeling of giving and while she is on this high level, or plateau, and stops for a while, she will probably want you to penetrate her, gently. This will lead to the most amazing love making.


She will learn that sex and spirituality are the same thing and will thank you for helping her confirm this. Thank her, for letting you help her make this connection and kneel, or sit cross-legged in front of each other and bow in Namaste.





Sexuality = Spirituality