Enlightenment or Ignorance - it is Your Choice.

Enlightenment is an insight into the spiritual. It also means "the full comprehension of a situation". The opposite meaning is ignorance.

If you become enlightened with Tantra, you start to realize that most of humanity is ignorant. Not only in Tantric terms, but just the way we live. 

I feel that humanity today exists in a western-culturally led globalisation.  This has turned many of us into potted plants. Society feeds and  waters us to keep things just so. To be useful to carry out work for others. To keep the status quo.

We think that we can be "happy" by amassing material goods. We focus on time. We worship money, the great mammon. The education system dumbs us down with outcome orientated teaching. We accept that the world is becoming a rougher, less caring place. We focus on "me", the ego.

It could be so different. If we want to move forward in peace, we must think in a new way.

First of all, we have to start with our health. Without our health, we cannot be good lovers. It is hard to give if you are thinking about pain. We eat food that is not real food. To make someone rich, or as government policy. This leads to chronic illness: cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.

We have to take responsibility for our health . We can start by proper eating in modest amounts. We have to practice intermittent fasting and occasional calorific restriction.

We have to learn to centering, the single-point of attention. That is not found in your head, it is in your 'Hara', below your navel.

We have to learn correct breathing and how to move.

When we are healthy, we can move to fitness. Mental and physical fitness. Then we can give, engage with our minds and higher consciousness. We learn to do this and later we can learn to fuse with another enlightened human to release the full power of Tantra.

99.9% of people are living in ignorance. They have locked themselves in their intellect, egos and emotions. They are not in their sensuality.

In my opinion, there is one group, a large group, who have the easiest path. These are mothers who have brought their children to adulthood. There we have a dilemma. Because of cultural stereotypes, the women suffer from low self esteem and self worth. What a shame. 

The loving potential of these women can power the world. That potential is only released when the men become enlightened.

So, let me restate my mantra: The role of men on this Earth is to worship the Divine Feminine.  

Apart from being the catalyst to help women reach a higher and higher level of consciousness, they can do a lot. It starts with total respect for women. No molesting, no rape, no putting women down. No equality as feminists would have. Rather an elevation of all women to a status of the Divine Goddess.

That does not mean that men should be patronizing. Being strong and protective at the same time loving and tender is the duty of all men. Providing the means to procreation and supporting mother and child is another. Men must never regard women as property. They must accept the non-permanence of relationships. The latter is hard to achieve. Jealousy, envy and possession are all apart of our material world.  Rejection is hard for the ego to deal with. But we must get rid of the idea of monogamy and possession. It is a poison.  

If you are a woman reading this: Trust your intuition. Realize your sexuality. Look after your health.

If you are a man reading this: Accept that women are on a higher plane in the sentinent hierarchy. Use your sensuality and empathy as a strength. Do not consider it a weakness. Listen to your partner. Your aim is to help bring her to a lasting sensual orgasm and keep her there for as long as possible. You will then sense the energy of the cosmos. This is a reward in itself.

Namaste.

I love this following video.

Why We Should Study Tantra as Individuals from Katrina Bos on Vimeo.

You've Lost That Loving Feeling....When your Tantric Woman loses interest

“You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips

And there's no tenderness like before in your fingertips”

                                                                                -“You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling”

I often wondered as a kid, what this song was about. Was it that his woman did not love him anymore? Perhaps she no longer found him attractive? She has another lover? Who knows?

My experience shows a different possibility.

Let us assume that Shakti is not your Tantric lover. Let us say that she is not the Divine Love Goddess. That Shakti reveals herself through a window that your partner has opened.

There are many different scenarios and situations leading to a form of kundalini awakening. The conditions have to be there to allow the two snakes to uncoil themselves. This can be an awareness of the woman. The intellect can be a driver. We men may kid ourselves that we are responsible.

The fact is that a woman can open the window to allow you to experience Shakti, the true Divine Love Goddess. And she can close it again. Just like that.

This can come as a shock. A blow to the ego, if you are still carrying one around. When she is no longer interested in making love. When it appears that she has gone cold on you. A million thoughts can pass through your mind. “What am I doing wrong?”, What happened?”. “Is there somebody else?”.

 Are you doing anything wrong? No, not if you are concentrating on her pleasure. If she is a Tantric lover, she would have told you that you could do better. Is there somebody else? A Tantric lover has to be empathic to allow the window to open, so she would tell you if there was, for sure. But if there is, just hope that he is a better lover than you are, because you do wish her the best. What happened? Several things are possible: Unfortunately, cultural norms affect Tantric women. It may well be that she has been in the negative atmosphere of other women who have a downer on all males. They may persuade her that she ought not to trust men. These women can be the older ones who have never experienced an awakening. Or they could be rabid feminists.

 Another possibility is that your Tantric lover has had a major change in her life. These changes can be the in the form of a lifestyle change, an illness, an emotional shock or the menopause.

You may well find that although you are a good Tantric lover, you suck in other ways! Yet I think that being open and honest with each other would lead her to tell you.

Sometimes it is that your lover cannot tell you what the reason is. Only that she does not want to take part in love making. For no particular reason. That is tough.

My theory is that we as men are invoking Shiva to find Shakti and we make the mistake in assuming that our lover is Shakti. We have to understand that if the conditions exist, your lover will show you Shakti. It is this embodiment that you are making love to. You are creating cosmic energy fusions. Your lover moves to a higher level of consciousness. She is making a path available by connecting with her mind.

So, what to do?

If you are friends with your lover, you need to show understanding. Give her room and time. Perhaps leave her alone completely for a while. Her window may open again – it may not. If it doesn’t, it is sad. This is Shakti in her role as the Great Destroyer. It hurts. You feel devastated. You feel that everything was perfect. That it should last forever. You want to go back in time and do something to avert the present situation.

If you have to move on, understand this. Your lover was never yours. She was the vehicle for Shakti. She opened a window for you. The window closes with this lover. It will open another place.

 “If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours” -Richard Bach

Are Women their own worst enemies?

I have a female friend who was at a get together of other women recently. They had originally met as a group of mothers at their kids' pre-school and now, some 10 years later, they were together again. My friend is a now a single mom, but is sexually self-realized and has decided that she no longer needs marriage as a part of her lifestyle. The other moms were either still married, or had moved on into other relationships. There was a strange reaction when she told about how her life was. There was no reference to her intimate life, mind you. Some of the women that she considered to be friends in the old days shunned her. She was rather taken aback at this but it did not spoil the general good tone of the party. She brought this up with me after a few days and we talked about what may have been going on. One of the things we discussed was that maybe the friends were either jealous or even scared of her. Why jealous? Because her demeanor is one of a woman who is satisfied and happy with herself, and therefore life. She gets what she wants without having to obey the rules of having to "give" herself to a man that she should live with. Perhaps that is what these women truly want without having the self-confidence or self-worth to be able to accomplish it. Scared, because I feel that "conventional" women see a loose, sexually-free woman as a threat. A threat to their ideals of marriage and social conformity and a threat to themselves directly, as they would not like their hubbies to come anywhere near this woman. This is clearly how women are supposed to react; as a part of the game, they are expected to uphold the patriarchal conventions of subservience and possession. A women should "belong" to a man and a man should "belong" to a women. That is marriage, isn't it? It seems to me that the witch hunts of previous times were not instigated by men, rather by women who were jealous and scared of any women who was free, wise and attractive. This attitude was reinforced in Christian lands by the church. Therefore women were demonized if they were not under the cosh of a man and some dreadful crimes were committed against them. We don't burn witches today, although in some cultures, any woman who deviates is punished by stoning to death. In so-called civilized countries, it is still the norm to ostracize free-thinking, free-living women and cast them as sinners and a threat to the institution of marriage and the family. I don't think women, generally, have come very far since the witch-burning times. What a shame. If we are going to move forward or even survive as the human race, we need to get back to appreciating the Divine Feminine in every woman. That means first and foremost that women have to listen to their inner voice and rediscover what was so prominent 10,000 or so years ago. Other women who are on the path should support every effort by their sisters and not feel envious or resentful. Only when all women are aware can they hope to educate men on how to treat women as Divine Love Goddesses.

Sacred Sexuality (by Shrif Swami)

Tantra says: The appeal of sex is because it gives you a moment of egolessness, timelessness, meditation. Because of ego-gratification, sex has become very very superficial, it only scratches the skin. It does not go deep, it has no depth. So many people are worried about premature ejaculation. The reason? They don’t love. If they love, then naturally they can make love for longer periods — the more you are in love, the longer the period will be. For hours you can be in love, because there is no hurry, the ego is not controlling.

In a Tantra coitus you can remain for hours. It is a kind of melting with the woman or with the man, it is a kind of relaxation into each other’s being. And it is meditative, because there is no ego, no thought stirs. And time stops. This is a glimpse of God. Tantra is the natural way to God, the normal way to God. The object is to become so completely instinctual, so mindless, that we merge with ultimate nature — that the woman disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate, the man disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate.

This is the Tantra definition of our sexuality: The return to absolute innocence, absolute oneness. The greatest sexual thrill of all is no search for thrills, but a silent waiting. Utterly relaxed, utterly mindless. One is conscious, conscious only of being conscious. One is consciousness. One is contented, but there is no content to it. And then there is great beauty, great benediction..

Sexual Energy (by Shrif Swami)

Sexual energy is a wastage if it only remains confined to sex, but it becomes a great blessing if it starts transforming its quality: sex not for sex’ sake — use sex as a communion of love. Use sex as a meeting of two souls, not only of two bodies. Use sex as a meditative dance of two persons’ energies. And the dance is far richer when man and woman are dancing together — and sex is the ultimate in dance: two energies meeting, merging, dancing, rejoicing.

But use it as a stepping-stone, as a jumping-board. And when you reach the climax of your sex orgasm, become aware of what is happening, and you will be surprised — time has disappeared, mind has disappeared, ego has disappeared. For a moment there is utter silence. This silence is the real thing!

By Shrif Swami Reposted from Tantric Therapy on Facebook.

The New World Order

Wise up, guys! There is a New World Order on the way!

Women today have found their rightful way to economic independence and that is a fact. It goes and different speeds around the world. In North West Europe, it is a fast development and I am told that that is the situation in East Asia. Women are getting educated and finding power through their careers.

Oh dear, I hear the lament of my brothers; but there is really no need for this. It is a fact that the peacefulness and hence, prosperity, of a nation is proportional to how its women are treated. I take it that we all have an interest in a peaceful world? Good!

So what does this mean to the average Jock? It means that you, Jock, will have to get wise and change your ways if you want any sort of sex life in the future that involves a female partner.

Until recently, us guys had entitlement, which meant that we could do pretty much what we liked with women - screw them, rape them, enslave them, beat them, because the expression of testosterone is violence. No way could women fight back. They were number two, if they were considered anything at all.

That is changing - partly by education and partly through the feminist movement. No, I am not a great fan of the feminist movement, especially when it becomes as fundamentalist as the creed of rabid ayatollahs and gets incorporated into the establishment - "state feminism". I believe that these women have directed so much hate at men, that they have denied their sisters and daughters access to what men are really capable of, if only they had the right guidance.

It should be (but it isn't) plain to see that the world is heading in the wrong direction. We have a corporation that wants to flood the world with cheap, toxic, highly addictive food for the masses. Probably backed by governments. Many people are living decidedly unhealthy morbid lifestyles as a consequence. If you are an obese, diabetes ridden, heart attack victim who has been made ill by all the crap food, you will find it difficult to reach tantric bliss.

"The media purveys a never-ending stream of inane, dumbed down hypnotic garbage that numbs the senses, plus of course Porn – the only means by which the de-sensitised, emotionally crippled consumers can get turned on any more" to quote Eleanor O'Rourke

Take the mantra of competition (the driving force of survival) to its obvious conclusion – a few people stand on the winner’s podium while everybody else loses.

This could all change, starting with the realization that women are divine and to be a real man, you must be a worshiper of women. However, there are many other things that could happen, such as a new paradigm for corporations who set themselves in society instead of believing they are separate from it.

To live a tantric lifestyle, essential for humanity's survival, you have to love yourself, your body and keep both mind and body healthy. By exercise and right diet. The Internet plays an important role, so never allow governments and corporations to control it. Write you own blog, your experiences. You can learn, discover and teach your children to learn about intimate human relations from books, articles, blogs and spiritual videos instead of the plastic, distorted, perverted world of pornography. Distinguish between the erotic and pornography.

Seek out like-minded people. Avoid those who are only in it for the money. Discuss openly, without fear, with everybody. Distinguish between casual, mindless, bonking sex and the sacred love-making between two souls. Use the creativity to solve your life's daily problems. Care for others as you will be cared for. Teach your children and others. Do not evangalise, but be aware of those who are ready to climb out of the dungeons of corporate oppression where they are shackled with the evil of money and materialism. Wellbeing and happiness in who you are counts much more than the love of things. Things are to be used, humans are to be loved, but our world has turned this on its head and what you see is many unhappy, unfulfilled, "wealthy" people.

Your wealth is in your giving, not the accumulated things. That giving starts with love and awareness. The love of nature, the appreciation and thankfulness of everything you experience, the godliness of you and everything and the transmutation of energy by the uniting of the feminine and the masculine in sacred, deep, aware, respectful, love-making.

Be skeptical; listen to the messages: kill the competition, consume more, go for economic growth. Reject these shibboleths and think in terms of enjoy what's around, cultivate relationships, forget concepts of possession and ownership of other people.In being jealous of things and relationships, you are sinking into a black hole. If you love yourself and have the capacity to love others, love will find you. But if you are envious, jealous, obsessive and possessive, unhappiness will follow you around like a shadow

So, hopefully you have now read the above and taken this in. You can go back to your rat-race job and convince yourself you have to do all this to "survive" (which is actually all you are doing), or you can sit on your bottom with a pizza and beer watching some inane reality show because you have nothing else to do having been excluded from the "elite" rat-race society. Neither are optimal, so start today by taking some outdoor exercise. Go swimming. Be aware of all that is around. Appreciate it. Find the best food you can afford. Organic. Start doing yoga and meditation. Clear you r mind and tune up your beautiful body. Seek the immutable truth in everything you appraise. Find like-minded people. Be open and honest to these people. They will be open and honest back. Love with passion and with the aim of giving and pleasing the other on a physical and spiritual level. Live long and lovingly. Give yourself.

A Woman is like a Canvas and her Lover an Artist

I love Metaphors! I was explaining to my partner what it was like to make love to her, bearing in mind that to me she has special qualities, which I will tell you about further down this blog. I told her that she was like a canvas and when I made love to her, it was like painting a picture. I come to think about what you needed to paint a great picture - time, canvas, brushes, paint. Paint! that is a vital ingredient, the raw material, without which it would be impossible to paint at all. My lover supplies a complete palette of bright paints - the colors of her chakras. So as long as I have this paint I can create wonderful images on the canvas. The point here is that those colors have to be available. Unfortunately, many women (and I suppose men) only have black and/or white available, which limits what can be created. Why do most women have very limited and plain colors? Because they have, since youth, had the colors leeched out of them by parents, family, culture, tradition and religion. Or even worse, they have had the palettes deliberately spoiled (mixed together to form a dirty brown) by the same parties. What I mean to say here is that a woman who is open, empathetic and unafraid is easier to love; because she reacts - naturally. She is not scared of where the feelings will take her and is ready to let her brain slide and her mind open up to the vast emptiness where all knowledge resides. Of course, this process relies on her partner understanding the process and being full of trust, because trust=love which gives security. Women can do this themselves to a degree, but half the magic is missing and they cannot fully concentrate. Have you ever tried to tickle yourself? Many, many women are filled with guilt or have been repressed. They once dreamed of being loved and having someone to take those fresh colors and make a fantastic painting. Only the "artist" had no idea, daubing the paint on crudely, even making holes in the canvas occasionally. A huge disappointment for many, leaving the majority to believe that the fault was with them. The doctrines of religion have caused huge damage and you can see that on the streets. Women rarely look happy in public. Because they are fundamentally not - or they are afraid to show happiness in case it becomes a signal for another selfish "artist" to come and mess the paints up to give a monochrome crap-color. Can anything be done to reverse this? Can the paints be separated out? Yes, I believe they can, but it takes a lot of patience and understanding. First, there has to be an atmosphere of trust - trust that the woman is safe under all circumstances and she will not be physically of psychologically hurt. The lover has to be capable of showing his(or her) understanding and skill, without "bragging". It is all in the kiss, and you won't believe how many times I have been called "dangerous" after the first kiss. It takes time, and lots of tender love. It takes dialog and exploration. Many women suffer from a severe lack of self-worth and they have the concepts of Shakti explained and discussed. Masturbation by the woman is encouraged, as this helps her ease into being relaxed and shows her lover how she likes to be touched. Go slowly - I mean real slow - 2-3 hours minimum. Many guys are thinking "whoa!, she has to what?" Why do men have problems with this, that a woman pleasuring herself somehow takes the focus off Mr. Big Dick Ego? You are here to assist and your reward is the love you will get back and, if you believe in Karma, the positive energy that comes your way. There is a fantastic feeling of achievement to watch a woman disappear into a trance of pleasure. If you are very aware, you will see the Kundalini energy creating a fountain from the top of her head and you will feel good. Believe me. If you can control your ejaculation, you can go on for hours, because she can! I would say that the biggest obstacle is approaching the issue from the start with a woman. Remember, many women, it seems, especially those over 50, do not know what an orgasm looks or feels like. But with an open mind and a lot of love, they will and your partner will realize her sexuality. Enjoy!