Sex as a path to enlightenment
We are here on our path to enlightenment. Few of us achieve any gain. Women can, and men can help, through reaching superconsciousness through sex. Why women? Because women have the possibility through orgasm to explore higher planes. This works better when an empathic and unselfish man is helping her there.
tirsdag den 28. august 2018
In Praise of Older Women
My recent experiences have taught me that Shakti is transient. She moves in and out of women. However, she makes herself discover-able. After losing Shakti in my beloved, I felt bewildered. I cannot recall doing anything different in the relationship; yet, the desire was gone. I tried to rationalise. In the end, I just accepted the situation. We are still very good friends, but she has become omnisexual, seeking her satisfaction in the ocean.
So what happened next?
I happened to meet an older lady. She is in her 80s. I could see from her smile that she was a dangerous woman, but she had all the appearances of being a prim and proper 'school mam'. She was coy and reserved, as one would expect of a recently-widowed woman. She was fit and healthy; trim, slim and upright. More like 60-something than 80-something.
It was clear that there was an attraction. She was insistent on telling me that she was 'too old' and that she had forgotten what to do. Her late husband's illness had precluded sex for a long time. I was invited for lunch and after eating, we sat down on a sofa and began to embrace and kiss. This had the effect of summoning forth Shakti. The result was explosive. Both of us were amazed at the intensity and passion. I was quite afraid of 'breaking' her, but as she does a routine of daily exercises, she is very tough.
Being a thinker, she wanted us to analyse what was going on. Why, after so many dormant years, could the flames of passion be reignited? Why was I so attracted to her, given our age difference? Why was her sexual organs functioning so well, with lubrication and sensitivity. Why did she want to make love endlessly?
Considering these I answered that it seems that women are conditioned to believe that their sex lives are over after the menopause. Their men have no idea how to keep the juices flowing (literally!). I think women decide that they should quash their libido and take of crochet or flower arranging.
The flames of passion depends on the man; if he is skillful at fanning the embers, then a huge fire will ensue. Unhindered by thoughts of children or job or what anyone else will think of her, if she feels secure and love, a mature octogenarian will 'let go' completely. Combine this with a feeling that it could be the swan song, and you have a very passionate partner.
The age difference? It has no relevance. Yes, signs of ageing are inevitable, but it is not a body who I making love to, it is the soul. The body is just a device to accommodate the tactile world we live in.
Keeping fit and healthy is an important factor. Practicing yoga, for example, keeps the body supple. Sensible nourishment as well. Meditation and living an independent but social life (children, friends, etc) allows a woman to maintain and grow self-worth and self-esteem.
My mature lover is like a teenager in her eagerness and agility. It is highly erotic. Her orgasms are remarkable and she is constantly coming, and is wet (although I have to constantly assure her that it is nothing to be embarrassed about)
We are both fundamentally changed by what has happened. She confides with her daughters and they have said that they are no longer afraid of ageing. I feel that this woman, unless Shakti takes flight again, will be able to maintain her lifestyle and libido until she is well over 100. Sex for her is a therapy and people have commented on how much younger she seems.
The real beauty of the relationship is that it can be kept very private, because in our culture, no one would credit it that two pensioners would be having such wild sex sessions which last for many hours on a daily basis. This privacy is extremely important and the 'school mam' image works as a nice facade.
I wonder how many other women experience this renaissance? It seems that it would depend on their being a supply of men who are over 50 but understand tantra. Those men have to learn to love gently, take time and not be affected by cultural body images.
If their are any senior women in my audience, take heart; their is no such thing as an end of a sex life. It may be re-awoken at any time, given the right stimulation.
If you are around the age of menopause, please be aware. You may well have 60 years of your life left. It is possible to enjoy sex even more that when you were in your reproductive age. It is an incentive to you not to fear getting old. Find a younger man who understands Tantra and let go - let go of the worries and responsibilities. It will transform your life.
torsdag den 26. januar 2017
Trump, Putin, Erdogan Declare War on Women
søndag den 23. oktober 2016
Enlightenment or Ignorance - it is Your Choice.
fredag den 26. august 2016
You've Lost That Loving Feeling....When your Tantric Woman loses interest
I often wondered as a kid, what this song was about. Was it that his woman did not love him anymore? Perhaps she no longer found him attractive? She has another lover? Who knows?
My experience shows a different possibility.
Let us assume that Shakti is not your Tantric lover. Let us say that she is not the Divine Love Goddess. That Shakti reveals herself through a window that your partner has opened.
There are many different scenarios and situations leading to a form of kundalini awakening. The conditions have to be there to allow the two snakes to uncoil themselves. This can be an awareness of the woman. The intellect can be a driver. We men may kid ourselves that we are responsible.
The fact is that a woman can open the window to allow you to experience Shakti, the true Divine Love Goddess. And she can close it again. Just like that.
This can come as a shock. A blow to the ego, if you are still carrying one around. When she is no longer interested in making love. When it appears that she has gone cold on you. A million thoughts can pass through your mind. “What am I doing wrong?”, What happened?”. “Is there somebody else?”.
Are you doing anything wrong? No, not if you are concentrating on her pleasure. If she is a Tantric lover, she would have told you that you could do better. Is there somebody else? A Tantric lover has to be empathic to allow the window to open, so she would tell you if there was, for sure. But if there is, just hope that he is a better lover than you are, because you do wish her the best. What happened? Several things are possible: Unfortunately, cultural norms affect Tantric women. It may well be that she has been in the negative atmosphere of other women who have a downer on all males. They may persuade her that she ought not to trust men. These women can be the older ones who have never experienced an awakening. Or they could be rabid feminists.
Another possibility is that your Tantric lover has had a major change in her life. These changes can be the in the form of a lifestyle change, an illness, an emotional shock or the menopause.
You may well find that although you are a good Tantric lover, you suck in other ways! Yet I think that being open and honest with each other would lead her to tell you.
Sometimes it is that your lover cannot tell you what the reason is. Only that she does not want to take part in love making. For no particular reason. That is tough.
My theory is that we as men are invoking Shiva to find Shakti and we make the mistake in assuming that our lover is Shakti. We have to understand that if the conditions exist, your lover will show you Shakti. It is this embodiment that you are making love to. You are creating cosmic energy fusions. Your lover moves to a higher level of consciousness. She is making a path available by connecting with her mind.
So, what to do?
If you are friends with your lover, you need to show understanding. Give her room and time. Perhaps leave her alone completely for a while. Her window may open again – it may not. If it doesn’t, it is sad. This is Shakti in her role as the Great Destroyer. It hurts. You feel devastated. You feel that everything was perfect. That it should last forever. You want to go back in time and do something to avert the present situation.
If you have to move on, understand this. Your lover was never yours. She was the vehicle for Shakti. She opened a window for you. The window closes with this lover. It will open another place.
“If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back They’re Yours” -Richard Bach
tirsdag den 26. august 2014
Are Women their own worst enemies?
mandag den 14. oktober 2013
Sacred Sexuality (by Shrif Swami)
In a Tantra coitus you can remain for hours. It is a kind of melting with the woman or with the man, it is a kind of relaxation into each other’s being. And it is meditative, because there is no ego, no thought stirs. And time stops. This is a glimpse of God. Tantra is the natural way to God, the normal way to God. The object is to become so completely instinctual, so mindless, that we merge with ultimate nature — that the woman disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate, the man disappears and becomes a door for the ultimate.
This is the Tantra definition of our sexuality: The return to absolute innocence, absolute oneness. The greatest sexual thrill of all is no search for thrills, but a silent waiting. Utterly relaxed, utterly mindless. One is conscious, conscious only of being conscious. One is consciousness. One is contented, but there is no content to it. And then there is great beauty, great benediction..
mandag den 30. september 2013
Sexual Energy (by Shrif Swami)
But use it as a stepping-stone, as a jumping-board. And when you reach the climax of your sex orgasm, become aware of what is happening, and you will be surprised — time has disappeared, mind has disappeared, ego has disappeared. For a moment there is utter silence. This silence is the real thing!
By Shrif Swami Reposted from Tantric Therapy on Facebook.