I watched an interesting video by David Wilcock. He says that 2012 is an important year, where humanity will make it or break it. It is a date highlighted by the Mayan and Egyptian calenders. It is the dawn of the Age of Aquarius.
I look around me and see what is happening. It is a fact that many more people have the same thoughts and feelings as I do. This is a factor of the search for spirituality by the Baby Boomers and the post-war European generation. We have the resources to be forward thinking. We have seen a sexual revolution, the emancipation of women, birth control, liberalism. We want more.
The feminist movement has been very aggressive in asserting the rights of women - perhaps too aggressive, because they have not carried all the women forward. The hard core despise men. Others know that they need something from men, but cannot define it, leaving "soft" men bewildered and "hard" men even more macho than before.
What should have happened is that women recognised their true sexuality and then educated the men on exactly what they wanted. Then the men willing to learn would have been able to do what men are good at, namely worshiping their women through their sexuality, or they would have literally died out.
To a degree this is happening, I agree. But it is happening in pockets - the traditional areas of liberal thinking, such as Hawaii, California and Northern Europe. Just a small fraction of the world.
We are faced with a fork in the path; The two scenarios are as follows:
1) The dark forces take over. By religious fundamentalism, chauvinism again comes to the fore and men are "empowered" to treat women as farm animals, as happens in many parts of the world. The lack of females in India and China causes men to dominate merely by being in the majority. In North America, Europe and Australasia, more interference in peoples' private lives "in the interests of your security", becomes a method of control. Sex becomes a purely commercial consumerist function, like drinking and eating are now. You can have as much as you like as long as you are paying someone for the privilege. Pig out, like people do on fast food and sugary drinks, with fast sex.
2) We do, indeed, enter, the Age of Aquarius, where women universally understand that they are liberated through their own sexuality and that they can reach a higher level of consciousness with a lover that understands love. Loving and sex begins with a smile and develops to a deep, sacred relationship between adults, regardless of age, cultural background or skin color. People trust each other and the universal law of Karma is embraced as The Law. We learn that we are all gods and that together we understand that we are Nature and therefore will do all to protect our lineage.
So, sisters, it is up to you. You must lead this revolution. Learn to love yourself and bury generations of inherited low self-esteem. Find a Dakini or a Tantrika and know what it can be really like and then find a partner who can help you transcend.
Many women around the world need to be shaken out of the shackles they find themselves in - whether by bullying men, intolerant religion, children from a very early age or the disease of consumerism.
I am an optimist: I prefer the Age of Aquarius outcome :-)
onsdag den 24. august 2011
onsdag den 17. august 2011
Zombies and Rogues
It is amazing how kids are totally involved in World of Warcraft. It panders to their "blue" meme development. Their are zombies, elves, gnomes, rogues, wizards, etc. It seems to me types of characters are reflected in real life.
In my experience, most people are zombies.Those who have not had their sexual/spiritual awakening are the living dead. You can see it in their eyes, on their faces, the way they walk. Unless, of course, everyone is acting - putting up a facade - but I doubt that. There is too much in the world's cultures to conspire against real life.
Others are rogues. Mainly men, who live on a constant overdose of testosterone. They see sex as something entirely and utterly for their own satisfaction and as a tool of power over "weaker" beings - mainly women, but in the worst case, children.
This is a totally sad situation. It makes being in public places a very depressing experience. People are scared - scared of contact, scared of risking showing what they know is inside them, scared of having bad experiences, scared of their sexuality.
So, many (mainly women) suppress it, and others (men) flaunt it in a vile way. Such is it, that many women in the world, instead of going outside with the prospect of meeting a partner who is going to give them the greatest satisfaction in their lives, go out with the fear of being accosted by "rogues", or even worse, being raped by a stupid, egotistical, testosterone-driven man.
And there is the suppression: I perform sports massage to people who have muscular pain. I can feel the level of sexual awareness in people, but being bound by ethical standards, do nothing to take advantage of it. But the difference is astounding: Even in healthy people, there is often no reaction to sensuous touch. This can be for two reasons: one, that the reaction is being suppressed (there and then), or the "circuit is dead", because of suppression as a part of the culture or background of the person. There is also the massive taboo nowadays of being touched at all.
When the clients are so relaxed under massage, it is hard to believe that they are actively suppressing their reactions. So, one may assumed, albeit dogmatically, that these people do not have the sexual awareness that could be considered natural.
But some do. Only a small percentage. Perhaps 1%. This corresponds to Ken Wilber's estimate of the people (in North America and Europe) in the yellow/turquoise memes (holonic). Is that a correlation? Or am I saying that it is the same people who are in both groups.
Does this mean that to make the sexual/spiritual connection, you have to have the necessary experience and have developed through the memes? Perhaps.
The fact is, that as human beings, we all have the potential to realize the Shiva and Shakti inside us. So, why don't we? Because contemporary life conspires against this. Consumerism has totally taken over. The message is that you have to get your pleasure from something you pay for, such as eating and drinking, and pornographic sex. Made cheap enough for everyone to indulge, of course, but the results are plain and obvious: Massive numbers of overweight people who are so out of touch with their bodies, they cannot possibly indulge in tantric lovemaking. Alcoholics and drug takers, seeking a thrill, which they could easily get from spiritual pursuits such as meditation and tantra. Smoking, which seems to create a false meditative state. Sex, so that women operate sexually on the same level as testosterone-filled males, looking for "performance" and sexual variations and deviations. Flitting from partner to partner and still having that empty feeling after all.
This is mainly in Western societies, but all these facets are being adopted in Asia and elsewhere, because it is being sold as "normal". Meanwhile, spirituality, especially sexual spirituality is considered "weird", or is mistaken as lust and promiscuity. And it certainly can be abused (see my earlier posts). It is strange that social media can flourish, showing the need for personal relationships, but people shun physical contact.
There are some brave people out there. Mainly women, who want to spread the word and educate men and women in the art of sexual spirituality. The real Tantrikas and Dakinis put themselves at risk from rogues and many are good at converting the rogues into something useful.
There are many women who have lived and experienced enough to start making the connection. They have had children, been slave to a man for much of their lives and connect with their own masculine sides. They have to really fight to break out of cultural and religious prisons. They go through a lot of pain and self-doubt, often having to regain their self-worth. They have to overcome their experience of men and bury the prejudice that most men are useless idiots (they are!). They are vulnerable to so -called "gurus", who will lead them to retreats in Romania or India , where they are emotionally raped. In finding new relationships, they have to run the gauntlet of men who want them to perform some form of sexual kinkiness to be accepted.
There are some brave men as well.
I wish that there were less zombies and rogues around. I wish that religions stopped oppressing women. I wish that women could start to live. What is needed is more women to take the path and instead of making enemies of men, as some aspects of the Feminist movement have done, start to educate the men. If women know what they really want, they should be able to teach men that. Soft men are OK, but girls, don't psychologically castrate the men. You love the strength of a man and the security it gives.
So, there we have the state of the world. I cannot speak about the non-Western world, but I doubt that in Asia, there are that many enlightened women. Probably not in the Arab countries. In Africa, maybe. But women have a very rough deal in most of Africa. If we take one-half percent of the grown women in Western societies, we are talking of perhaps 20 million women who have realized the purpose of their lives beyond procreation and in some cases, career. There are some 3 billion women who need to be shown, and this is where the Feminist movement should concentrate its efforts.
The Dark Forces of fundamentalism are at large. Women are not being liberated. Chauvinism is on the way back in. As a man, I have learned that women are to be worshiped, but it is oh, so easy for men to revert to being bullies and treating women as farmyard animals. Even in Western societies. Beware of this.
Deep love and satisfaction is possible for every woman. Reaching a higher level of consciousness (super consciousness) is realistic. "Going solo" (masturbation) is a move in the right direction, but the intimacy and ying-yang effect of an empathic partner will allow for the attainment of higher levels.
And brother: You rogue. I know you, I have been there myself. For many years I treated women as objects and subjects of material deviations. External. Apart. Who cares what she thought, as long as she looked good and I could boast of my prowess. Who cared about the concerns of a mere woman!
This is the message to my brothers: Learn Tantra or Tao. Start to understand that the greatest thrill is to help a woman achieve orgasm. Not "give her an orgasm". She can only give herself an orgasm. But when she is in that trance-like state, you are really loving her. You are fulfilling the conditions for something sacred and magic. If you are good at it, you will be able to help develop her skills. She has a lot of prejudice to overcome.
Tenderness and gentleness are the keywords.
Do it. You will never regret and by doing it, you will make the world a better place.
In my experience, most people are zombies.Those who have not had their sexual/spiritual awakening are the living dead. You can see it in their eyes, on their faces, the way they walk. Unless, of course, everyone is acting - putting up a facade - but I doubt that. There is too much in the world's cultures to conspire against real life.
Others are rogues. Mainly men, who live on a constant overdose of testosterone. They see sex as something entirely and utterly for their own satisfaction and as a tool of power over "weaker" beings - mainly women, but in the worst case, children.
This is a totally sad situation. It makes being in public places a very depressing experience. People are scared - scared of contact, scared of risking showing what they know is inside them, scared of having bad experiences, scared of their sexuality.
So, many (mainly women) suppress it, and others (men) flaunt it in a vile way. Such is it, that many women in the world, instead of going outside with the prospect of meeting a partner who is going to give them the greatest satisfaction in their lives, go out with the fear of being accosted by "rogues", or even worse, being raped by a stupid, egotistical, testosterone-driven man.
And there is the suppression: I perform sports massage to people who have muscular pain. I can feel the level of sexual awareness in people, but being bound by ethical standards, do nothing to take advantage of it. But the difference is astounding: Even in healthy people, there is often no reaction to sensuous touch. This can be for two reasons: one, that the reaction is being suppressed (there and then), or the "circuit is dead", because of suppression as a part of the culture or background of the person. There is also the massive taboo nowadays of being touched at all.
When the clients are so relaxed under massage, it is hard to believe that they are actively suppressing their reactions. So, one may assumed, albeit dogmatically, that these people do not have the sexual awareness that could be considered natural.
But some do. Only a small percentage. Perhaps 1%. This corresponds to Ken Wilber's estimate of the people (in North America and Europe) in the yellow/turquoise memes (holonic). Is that a correlation? Or am I saying that it is the same people who are in both groups.
Does this mean that to make the sexual/spiritual connection, you have to have the necessary experience and have developed through the memes? Perhaps.
The fact is, that as human beings, we all have the potential to realize the Shiva and Shakti inside us. So, why don't we? Because contemporary life conspires against this. Consumerism has totally taken over. The message is that you have to get your pleasure from something you pay for, such as eating and drinking, and pornographic sex. Made cheap enough for everyone to indulge, of course, but the results are plain and obvious: Massive numbers of overweight people who are so out of touch with their bodies, they cannot possibly indulge in tantric lovemaking. Alcoholics and drug takers, seeking a thrill, which they could easily get from spiritual pursuits such as meditation and tantra. Smoking, which seems to create a false meditative state. Sex, so that women operate sexually on the same level as testosterone-filled males, looking for "performance" and sexual variations and deviations. Flitting from partner to partner and still having that empty feeling after all.
This is mainly in Western societies, but all these facets are being adopted in Asia and elsewhere, because it is being sold as "normal". Meanwhile, spirituality, especially sexual spirituality is considered "weird", or is mistaken as lust and promiscuity. And it certainly can be abused (see my earlier posts). It is strange that social media can flourish, showing the need for personal relationships, but people shun physical contact.
There are some brave people out there. Mainly women, who want to spread the word and educate men and women in the art of sexual spirituality. The real Tantrikas and Dakinis put themselves at risk from rogues and many are good at converting the rogues into something useful.
There are many women who have lived and experienced enough to start making the connection. They have had children, been slave to a man for much of their lives and connect with their own masculine sides. They have to really fight to break out of cultural and religious prisons. They go through a lot of pain and self-doubt, often having to regain their self-worth. They have to overcome their experience of men and bury the prejudice that most men are useless idiots (they are!). They are vulnerable to so -called "gurus", who will lead them to retreats in Romania or India , where they are emotionally raped. In finding new relationships, they have to run the gauntlet of men who want them to perform some form of sexual kinkiness to be accepted.
There are some brave men as well.
I wish that there were less zombies and rogues around. I wish that religions stopped oppressing women. I wish that women could start to live. What is needed is more women to take the path and instead of making enemies of men, as some aspects of the Feminist movement have done, start to educate the men. If women know what they really want, they should be able to teach men that. Soft men are OK, but girls, don't psychologically castrate the men. You love the strength of a man and the security it gives.
So, there we have the state of the world. I cannot speak about the non-Western world, but I doubt that in Asia, there are that many enlightened women. Probably not in the Arab countries. In Africa, maybe. But women have a very rough deal in most of Africa. If we take one-half percent of the grown women in Western societies, we are talking of perhaps 20 million women who have realized the purpose of their lives beyond procreation and in some cases, career. There are some 3 billion women who need to be shown, and this is where the Feminist movement should concentrate its efforts.
The Dark Forces of fundamentalism are at large. Women are not being liberated. Chauvinism is on the way back in. As a man, I have learned that women are to be worshiped, but it is oh, so easy for men to revert to being bullies and treating women as farmyard animals. Even in Western societies. Beware of this.
Deep love and satisfaction is possible for every woman. Reaching a higher level of consciousness (super consciousness) is realistic. "Going solo" (masturbation) is a move in the right direction, but the intimacy and ying-yang effect of an empathic partner will allow for the attainment of higher levels.
And brother: You rogue. I know you, I have been there myself. For many years I treated women as objects and subjects of material deviations. External. Apart. Who cares what she thought, as long as she looked good and I could boast of my prowess. Who cared about the concerns of a mere woman!
This is the message to my brothers: Learn Tantra or Tao. Start to understand that the greatest thrill is to help a woman achieve orgasm. Not "give her an orgasm". She can only give herself an orgasm. But when she is in that trance-like state, you are really loving her. You are fulfilling the conditions for something sacred and magic. If you are good at it, you will be able to help develop her skills. She has a lot of prejudice to overcome.
Tenderness and gentleness are the keywords.
Do it. You will never regret and by doing it, you will make the world a better place.
fredag den 12. august 2011
Sex and Spirituality
A friend of mine had written a blog which talked about sex and spirituality. He made a mention of this blog in social media and one of his female friends commented: "You can't be sexual and spiritual at the same time?". Kind of a statement and question at the same time, which appears to me that she was confused or naive.
The whole point is that sexuality and spirituality are the same. Especially for women. The unfortunate, nay, tragic part is that the vast majority of women do not seem to appreciate this.
Ken Wilber, whom I greatly respect as a thinker, refers to "memes" and the development that individuals and societies have to go through to reach a level of spirituality. The sexual development clearly takes the same path. So it does not surprise me that the vast majority are not "there" yet. It is in the interests of the lower hierarchical memes to hold people away from the realization that sex and spirituality are inextricably linked.
But like with everything else, people reason and by reasoning and thinking, get to understand more. The ironic thing about sex is that people often make that realization when they are not physically able to do anything about it, because they have gotten old and their bodies begin to break down. Which could have been delayed if they had listened more to their bodies and explored their minds.
Women have the wonderful opportunity of reaching a higher level of conciousness through their bodies. A woman's body is an amazing total sexual organ and by cultivating the sexual energy, can transform it into their minds. Unfortunately for the majority of us men, we have to sit and stare at a wall to achieve the same, by meditation.
Speaking as a man and an observer, I think the majority of women know this. They explore there bodies at an early age, but then, through guilt or approbation, are told that this is "unhealthy". A new study reveals 92% of women regularly take time out to masturbate, a huge jump from the findings of previous studies (74% in 1979 and 62% in 1953). We are heading in the right direction, for sure.
But many women stop here, because men cannot come to terms with this, or lesbianism. Men think that a women who rejects "them" as a "lover" (sic) is some kind of traitor. Women know this, so rarely admit to a man that they masturbate.
However, getting the confidence of a woman to admit this and even better, getting into a relaxed position to show you, as a partner, what she does and how she best stimulate herself can help her get to the higher levels. Why? I could guess that in pre-historic times, a woman knew she was vulnerable when she was in the "zone", therefore having a man to protect her was important. I think this is still valid today, and the appeal of a strong, protective but sensitive man is very important to women.
In any case, the intimacy of a man and the sharing of the experience will help the woman reach, by stages, a higher spiritual level. Here, the man should worship his Shakti woman, whispering encouragement into her ears, caressing her, stroking her body, kissing her gently while she does what she does best. It is being there without getting involved. Guys, forget your egos, forget the self-interest and concentrate on assisting your love partner to ecstasy and bliss.
This ego-lessness will give you a wonderful feeling of giving and while she is on this high level, or plateau, and stops for a while, she will probably want you to penetrate her, gently. This will lead to the most amazing love making.
She will learn that sex and spirituality are the same thing and will thank you for helping her confirm this. Thank her, for letting you help her make this connection and kneel, or sit cross-legged in front of each other and bow in Namaste.
Sexuality = Spirituality
The whole point is that sexuality and spirituality are the same. Especially for women. The unfortunate, nay, tragic part is that the vast majority of women do not seem to appreciate this.
Ken Wilber, whom I greatly respect as a thinker, refers to "memes" and the development that individuals and societies have to go through to reach a level of spirituality. The sexual development clearly takes the same path. So it does not surprise me that the vast majority are not "there" yet. It is in the interests of the lower hierarchical memes to hold people away from the realization that sex and spirituality are inextricably linked.
But like with everything else, people reason and by reasoning and thinking, get to understand more. The ironic thing about sex is that people often make that realization when they are not physically able to do anything about it, because they have gotten old and their bodies begin to break down. Which could have been delayed if they had listened more to their bodies and explored their minds.
Women have the wonderful opportunity of reaching a higher level of conciousness through their bodies. A woman's body is an amazing total sexual organ and by cultivating the sexual energy, can transform it into their minds. Unfortunately for the majority of us men, we have to sit and stare at a wall to achieve the same, by meditation.
Speaking as a man and an observer, I think the majority of women know this. They explore there bodies at an early age, but then, through guilt or approbation, are told that this is "unhealthy". A new study reveals 92% of women regularly take time out to masturbate, a huge jump from the findings of previous studies (74% in 1979 and 62% in 1953). We are heading in the right direction, for sure.
But many women stop here, because men cannot come to terms with this, or lesbianism. Men think that a women who rejects "them" as a "lover" (sic) is some kind of traitor. Women know this, so rarely admit to a man that they masturbate.
However, getting the confidence of a woman to admit this and even better, getting into a relaxed position to show you, as a partner, what she does and how she best stimulate herself can help her get to the higher levels. Why? I could guess that in pre-historic times, a woman knew she was vulnerable when she was in the "zone", therefore having a man to protect her was important. I think this is still valid today, and the appeal of a strong, protective but sensitive man is very important to women.
In any case, the intimacy of a man and the sharing of the experience will help the woman reach, by stages, a higher spiritual level. Here, the man should worship his Shakti woman, whispering encouragement into her ears, caressing her, stroking her body, kissing her gently while she does what she does best. It is being there without getting involved. Guys, forget your egos, forget the self-interest and concentrate on assisting your love partner to ecstasy and bliss.
This ego-lessness will give you a wonderful feeling of giving and while she is on this high level, or plateau, and stops for a while, she will probably want you to penetrate her, gently. This will lead to the most amazing love making.
She will learn that sex and spirituality are the same thing and will thank you for helping her confirm this. Thank her, for letting you help her make this connection and kneel, or sit cross-legged in front of each other and bow in Namaste.
Sexuality = Spirituality
mandag den 8. august 2011
Tantric Goddesses
I constantly try to learn more - from people and books, web sites, YouTube, etc. The most important source of my knowledge has been my Divine Love Goddess, whose realization and awakening of her sexuality was accompanied by my practicing what I had learned. It has been a wonderful journey so far. She is open. She knows that she has to fight her cultural and religious upbringing to bring to the front the things she knew as a woman.
It may sound naive, but I never thought that I would find a woman who had a Shakti nature. But all women have a Shakti nature. Our "modern" society and the efforts of men over milenia has buried all this to a very deep level. It takes a woman who is brave and open to awaken the serpent within. It also takes a man who has taken the time to study and has broken down his testosterone-driven ego to allow a woman to bring it out.
Some women have found out through self-discovery and believe that no man can ever create the intimacy required. Others seek other women, who understand the subtleties of Shakti nature.
The Internet is populated with many women, claiming to be "Tantra Goddesses", ready to show men, or couples, the Secrets of Tantra. Some are well meaning, but I am reminded of what the Buddhist Master Lhi Chi said "If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him" . So are solicitations on the Internet (through many Facebook pages) just thinly-veiled prostitutes?
I would say that to have any success with Tantra, love has to be involved. You have to love yourself and love the woman, her body, mind, spirit and womb. Can this be done in a "session". If the Goddess is not offering sex, but her wisdom, then it is perfectly acceptable. But beware - because there seems to be a thin line between spiritual sexuality and promiscuous sex and for men, the latter can be a temptation, a short cut to carnal pleasure. That is not what it is about.
I am sure that many of the women (and men) offering their services are doing a good and worthy job, but it must be difficult to distance oneself from the "client", at the same time imparting deep, intimate knowledge.
In the US, it seems that the society is big and spacious enough to accept that tantra teachers can exist. I am sorry to say that in Europe, it is not so: there are still too many taboos, and an attitude that a sexually-aware woman is a "witch". An enlightened man over the age of 45 is a "dirty old man".
So how does the message get across? With difficulty. But one thing is for sure. The future of humanity requires a turnaround where men learn to worship women. Every man and every woman has the divinity within. Women must listen to there instincts and men must be open to learn. Believe me, it is worth it.
It may sound naive, but I never thought that I would find a woman who had a Shakti nature. But all women have a Shakti nature. Our "modern" society and the efforts of men over milenia has buried all this to a very deep level. It takes a woman who is brave and open to awaken the serpent within. It also takes a man who has taken the time to study and has broken down his testosterone-driven ego to allow a woman to bring it out.
Some women have found out through self-discovery and believe that no man can ever create the intimacy required. Others seek other women, who understand the subtleties of Shakti nature.
The Internet is populated with many women, claiming to be "Tantra Goddesses", ready to show men, or couples, the Secrets of Tantra. Some are well meaning, but I am reminded of what the Buddhist Master Lhi Chi said "If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him" . So are solicitations on the Internet (through many Facebook pages) just thinly-veiled prostitutes?
I would say that to have any success with Tantra, love has to be involved. You have to love yourself and love the woman, her body, mind, spirit and womb. Can this be done in a "session". If the Goddess is not offering sex, but her wisdom, then it is perfectly acceptable. But beware - because there seems to be a thin line between spiritual sexuality and promiscuous sex and for men, the latter can be a temptation, a short cut to carnal pleasure. That is not what it is about.
I am sure that many of the women (and men) offering their services are doing a good and worthy job, but it must be difficult to distance oneself from the "client", at the same time imparting deep, intimate knowledge.
In the US, it seems that the society is big and spacious enough to accept that tantra teachers can exist. I am sorry to say that in Europe, it is not so: there are still too many taboos, and an attitude that a sexually-aware woman is a "witch". An enlightened man over the age of 45 is a "dirty old man".
So how does the message get across? With difficulty. But one thing is for sure. The future of humanity requires a turnaround where men learn to worship women. Every man and every woman has the divinity within. Women must listen to there instincts and men must be open to learn. Believe me, it is worth it.
mandag den 8. november 2010
Female sexual energy - can you handle it, guys?
Female sexual energy is a very powerful thing. If you have taught or she has learnt the Ovarian Draw or kundalini methods, she will have stored sexual energy in her brain, ready to be discharged.
Brother, do not underestimate the power of this; when released, it can literally suck the life out of you, if you don't know what you are doing.
From your partners viewpoint, a full discharge of this energy, once set in motion, is necessary, because anything short of this will leave her feeling empty and unfulfilled. And that is not a pleasant way to leave a woman.
You will be amazed, even shocked, at the force in which this energy manifests itself, and I advise you to take it nice and slowly. Although you will be tempted, and she will want you to 'take her', resist the temptation. Use your tongue to build your own sexual energy - kissing, sucking, licking. Always be aware of her state and show the tenderness and love that you have for her.
She will build slowly and will come to orgasm, but it does not stop there. You will be able to build on the last orgasm, each cycle taking 10-20 minutes, and at each stage she will get higher and higher.
If it gets too 'hot' for you (both), relax in the Yab-Yum position, where you just embrace. Remember that female sexual energy is cool, as opposed to your own hot energy.
When you feel ready, and she does too, then you can penetrate. Make sure you have been practicing the Big Draw before your sacred love-making, because you will both experience a whole body orgasm.
Enjoy
Brother, do not underestimate the power of this; when released, it can literally suck the life out of you, if you don't know what you are doing.
From your partners viewpoint, a full discharge of this energy, once set in motion, is necessary, because anything short of this will leave her feeling empty and unfulfilled. And that is not a pleasant way to leave a woman.
You will be amazed, even shocked, at the force in which this energy manifests itself, and I advise you to take it nice and slowly. Although you will be tempted, and she will want you to 'take her', resist the temptation. Use your tongue to build your own sexual energy - kissing, sucking, licking. Always be aware of her state and show the tenderness and love that you have for her.
She will build slowly and will come to orgasm, but it does not stop there. You will be able to build on the last orgasm, each cycle taking 10-20 minutes, and at each stage she will get higher and higher.
If it gets too 'hot' for you (both), relax in the Yab-Yum position, where you just embrace. Remember that female sexual energy is cool, as opposed to your own hot energy.
When you feel ready, and she does too, then you can penetrate. Make sure you have been practicing the Big Draw before your sacred love-making, because you will both experience a whole body orgasm.
Enjoy
mandag den 6. september 2010
Dancing Tango
Tango is an amazing dance. Intricate, sesuous, passionate.
It takes something to learn to dance tango. Dancing is like making love. In fact, dancing is making love. It is a wonderful way to build up sexual energy in a woman. The swaying movements, the touch, the look.
A woman aware of her sexuality has the possibility to constantly grow. Like peeling back layers of an onion, there is always more to come. The intensity of her desires will allow her to get to the higher level. If she will open up, and fully experience what her feelings tell her.
As a man, you can give her the framework and the security to do this. By being with her at each new level. Talking her experience through, reassuring her when she feels that there is no logic, that she has lost control and is perhaps afraid that the sesuality can no longer be controlled.
The point is, that she will need a partner who is aware of this and how far she is. She will find that trying to take a sexual partner who is not on her level will be like dancing tango with someone who does not know the steps, or has no rythym. And that would not do at all - an empty, unfulfilled feeling.
Be her dancing partner. Learn the steps, so that you can flow and the dance becomes the basis for reaching something higher. Take the time to understand the processes that your partner is experiencing and attain pleasure from seeing her fly.
It takes something to learn to dance tango. Dancing is like making love. In fact, dancing is making love. It is a wonderful way to build up sexual energy in a woman. The swaying movements, the touch, the look.
A woman aware of her sexuality has the possibility to constantly grow. Like peeling back layers of an onion, there is always more to come. The intensity of her desires will allow her to get to the higher level. If she will open up, and fully experience what her feelings tell her.
As a man, you can give her the framework and the security to do this. By being with her at each new level. Talking her experience through, reassuring her when she feels that there is no logic, that she has lost control and is perhaps afraid that the sesuality can no longer be controlled.
The point is, that she will need a partner who is aware of this and how far she is. She will find that trying to take a sexual partner who is not on her level will be like dancing tango with someone who does not know the steps, or has no rythym. And that would not do at all - an empty, unfulfilled feeling.
Be her dancing partner. Learn the steps, so that you can flow and the dance becomes the basis for reaching something higher. Take the time to understand the processes that your partner is experiencing and attain pleasure from seeing her fly.
mandag den 19. juli 2010
In whose interest is it?
I often wonder about drugs; The 'problem' could easily be taken care of; for example, by buying up the opium production in Afghanistan and other places at 'commercial' rates and convert it to morphine, so that people in great pain with terminal illnesses may die a dignified death. But it is in somebody's interest to keep the drug trade going. It is so lucrative, that could it be perhaps all government leaders are corrupted or compromised?
But what about making love? What is the problem? Why is it still heavily engrained in many people that sex is something 'dirty', to be guilty about? We are talking about the most beautiful, sacred act, that people can be engaged in. An act that is peaceful, in harmony with nature and the needs of our souls.
Poeple go around in their lives in the full knowledge that there is something missing in their lives, and they often use materialism as a substitute. This clearly satisfies those who want to sell us products, because by creating this false need, they can watch their profits increase. It instils samsara on us. It leaves us with an empty feeling. We get short term pleasure from 'things', all the while knowing that there is a deeper meaning to it all.
Organised religion has a lot to answer for; yes, there is the consideration of women left to bring up children single-handed, which is far from ideal. In this day and age, with the range of contraceptives available, this should never be a problem. But whole populations are held back from knowledge of contraception, and the result is plain to see; the world is becoming horribly overpopulated.
In advocating making love as a way to enlightenment, I am also saying to all men; take responsibility. You are not the one who becomes pregnant, but you willl be the one to have to pay. So unless you have both consented to wanting a baby, a real love child, make sure that you always wear a condom. It does not detract from the experience at all, and will also help avoid the spreading of diseases. The company Durex make a very good condom, the Featherlite, and it feels almost as if it is not there.
So back to the question; In whose interest is it?
I believe that in ancient times, women were at the centre of society. Their fertility related to the fertility experienced with plants and other animals, and these 'Gaia' women chose the strongest, fittest men to be lovers. Given that there are more men born than women, there was a surplus of weak, but intellectual men. These men sought, through establishing religion, to suppress women. Creating stories of how 'evil' women were, they succeeded and to this day in many religions, women are suppressed and oppressed. So that men can exercise power. Impotent men. Ignorant men.
However, it goes deeper that that. There are such taboos, concerned with marriage, homosexuality, inter-racial relations, inter-religious relationships, age differences, the concept of older people having sexual relations, the notion that women beyond the menopause cannot reach the same levels.
There is the extreme; take the sad case of the Chechnyan President, Ramzan Kadyrov, who thinks that is fine to fire paintball guns at women who do not wear veils. I simply do not understand how women find themselves in these societies. It can only be that they are so suppressed that they do not realise what is being done to them.
I see so many sad people, especially sad women. Men seem to find satisfaction in their domination, their power, but even so I see many very sad men. People who are just existing, wondering why they have been put here on earth. They have absolutely no contact with their souls and are literally shadows. This must be where those who wish to exercise power want them: religions, capitalists, dictators, governments. By creating conditions for samsara, capitalists manage to sell their goods and find workers ready to sell themselves and their labour in the cause of materialism.
I want these people to wake up, but that awakening must come from within. There must be a revolution or the human race will cease to exist within a few generations.
Women: Question the culture and traditions that hold you firmly in your place. Discover your sexuality and use it to reach a higher level of conciousness. Teach your daughters, that sex is sacred - sex is natural and the natural state is to be in ecstacy. It is not to get 'bonked' as many times as you can by as many men as possible. With real love-making, there is nothing to be ashamed of, no punishments to be meted out. No guilt, because it is your body and your mind for you to decide exactly want you want to do with it.
Men: Give up the notion that women are to be hunted and brought to submission like animals. Women are the other half of the human race, but they have have special properties that unfortunately we cannot experience. Well, we can, if we practice yoga. Remember that women are to be respected and that your role in life is to help bring women to eventual enlightenment, which they can do through their unique sensual organs.
Give the woman you are with warm, sincere words. Give her a feeling of security without being patronising. Relax her, and hold her in your arms. Take your time, remembering that women need time. The kiss is so omportant. Gentle to start with, almost brushing her lips with yours. Feel the passion start to grow and watch her eyes. Look for he gently closing her eyes, with the occasional flutter of the eyelids. Dwell on the kiss - it is more important that you would believe.......
So in whose interest is it to suppress the real love in the world? Everybody's, as long as everybody continues to support the notions. Just look around at this world: Violence, sexual exploitation, drugs, war, poverty, over population, hunger, confusion, war, jealousy, resentment, materialism, pollution.
If only men learned to love women and used their energies on this, the world would be a better place to live. If only women learned who they really are and found men they could trust to literally make love, on their terms.
But what about making love? What is the problem? Why is it still heavily engrained in many people that sex is something 'dirty', to be guilty about? We are talking about the most beautiful, sacred act, that people can be engaged in. An act that is peaceful, in harmony with nature and the needs of our souls.
Poeple go around in their lives in the full knowledge that there is something missing in their lives, and they often use materialism as a substitute. This clearly satisfies those who want to sell us products, because by creating this false need, they can watch their profits increase. It instils samsara on us. It leaves us with an empty feeling. We get short term pleasure from 'things', all the while knowing that there is a deeper meaning to it all.
Organised religion has a lot to answer for; yes, there is the consideration of women left to bring up children single-handed, which is far from ideal. In this day and age, with the range of contraceptives available, this should never be a problem. But whole populations are held back from knowledge of contraception, and the result is plain to see; the world is becoming horribly overpopulated.
In advocating making love as a way to enlightenment, I am also saying to all men; take responsibility. You are not the one who becomes pregnant, but you willl be the one to have to pay. So unless you have both consented to wanting a baby, a real love child, make sure that you always wear a condom. It does not detract from the experience at all, and will also help avoid the spreading of diseases. The company Durex make a very good condom, the Featherlite, and it feels almost as if it is not there.
So back to the question; In whose interest is it?
I believe that in ancient times, women were at the centre of society. Their fertility related to the fertility experienced with plants and other animals, and these 'Gaia' women chose the strongest, fittest men to be lovers. Given that there are more men born than women, there was a surplus of weak, but intellectual men. These men sought, through establishing religion, to suppress women. Creating stories of how 'evil' women were, they succeeded and to this day in many religions, women are suppressed and oppressed. So that men can exercise power. Impotent men. Ignorant men.
However, it goes deeper that that. There are such taboos, concerned with marriage, homosexuality, inter-racial relations, inter-religious relationships, age differences, the concept of older people having sexual relations, the notion that women beyond the menopause cannot reach the same levels.
There is the extreme; take the sad case of the Chechnyan President, Ramzan Kadyrov, who thinks that is fine to fire paintball guns at women who do not wear veils. I simply do not understand how women find themselves in these societies. It can only be that they are so suppressed that they do not realise what is being done to them.
I see so many sad people, especially sad women. Men seem to find satisfaction in their domination, their power, but even so I see many very sad men. People who are just existing, wondering why they have been put here on earth. They have absolutely no contact with their souls and are literally shadows. This must be where those who wish to exercise power want them: religions, capitalists, dictators, governments. By creating conditions for samsara, capitalists manage to sell their goods and find workers ready to sell themselves and their labour in the cause of materialism.
I want these people to wake up, but that awakening must come from within. There must be a revolution or the human race will cease to exist within a few generations.
Women: Question the culture and traditions that hold you firmly in your place. Discover your sexuality and use it to reach a higher level of conciousness. Teach your daughters, that sex is sacred - sex is natural and the natural state is to be in ecstacy. It is not to get 'bonked' as many times as you can by as many men as possible. With real love-making, there is nothing to be ashamed of, no punishments to be meted out. No guilt, because it is your body and your mind for you to decide exactly want you want to do with it.
Men: Give up the notion that women are to be hunted and brought to submission like animals. Women are the other half of the human race, but they have have special properties that unfortunately we cannot experience. Well, we can, if we practice yoga. Remember that women are to be respected and that your role in life is to help bring women to eventual enlightenment, which they can do through their unique sensual organs.
Give the woman you are with warm, sincere words. Give her a feeling of security without being patronising. Relax her, and hold her in your arms. Take your time, remembering that women need time. The kiss is so omportant. Gentle to start with, almost brushing her lips with yours. Feel the passion start to grow and watch her eyes. Look for he gently closing her eyes, with the occasional flutter of the eyelids. Dwell on the kiss - it is more important that you would believe.......
So in whose interest is it to suppress the real love in the world? Everybody's, as long as everybody continues to support the notions. Just look around at this world: Violence, sexual exploitation, drugs, war, poverty, over population, hunger, confusion, war, jealousy, resentment, materialism, pollution.
If only men learned to love women and used their energies on this, the world would be a better place to live. If only women learned who they really are and found men they could trust to literally make love, on their terms.
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